Whenever your child throws a hissy fit in public, you can’t help but feel like people are looking at you with dismay as if you’re the worst parent in the world, who doesn’t have the least power to control your child’s public tantrums.
But it’s not really easy. And those people who give looks of disapproval probably haven’t tried raising a child so they are not in the position to know what you’re going through. Minding them should be the least of your worries.
Temper Tantrums are actually common in children, particularly among toddlers. This refers to a sudden display of anger that is mostly intended to catch your attention or to get whatever it is that your child wants. It may also be a sign of frustration, when a child can’t do what he wants to do like tying shoelaces or buttoning up the shirt.
When a child goes into a tantrum, he doesn’t only cry or yell, he may even swing his arms and legs, lie on the floor, and shake vigorously. This can last from 30 seconds to as long as three minutes. In more severe cases, the tantrum lasts a lot longer and the child may engage in violent acts such as hitting, biting and pinching.
Mild tantrums are normal in most cases. Violent tantrums meanwhile are not. These may be indicative of a more serious psychological problem in the child. If you’re having trouble dealing with your child’s public tantrums, here are the things that you need to do.
Avoid Tantrum Situations
Observe the things that trigger your child’s tantrums and do your best to avoid these. For example, if your child can’t handle the excessive noise in the supermarket and throws a major tantrum whenever he’s there, then avoid bringing him with you when you go grocery shopping. If you must, bring him to another grocery where there is less noise.
Ignore the Tantrum
At home, if your child throws a tantrum, the best way to deal with it is to walk away. This will show your child that tantrums will not get him anything, not even your attention. However, it’s a different thing when you’re out since you can’t just leave your child there and walk away. What you can do instead is to ignore the tantrum and take your child to a different place. For example, if you’re in the post office mailing some letters, excuse yourself for a while and take your child out. Outside, wait for him to calm down before talking to him about why he’s doing that. Make a deal with him. If he says he wants to go home already, tell him you’d only be able to do that if he lets you finish your task.
Don’t Take a Hungry Or Tired Child Out
Two of the most common causes of tantrums are hunger and exhaustion. Who wants to go out when not in the mood, right? It’s the same for children. If they don’t feel like going out because they’re tired, they shouldn’t be forced. It would also help to bring healthy snacks that will satiate your child’s rumbling stomach so that he doesn’t turn into a monster when you’re out in the public with him.
Keep Your Child Occupied
Bring some of your child’s favorite items when you take him out for a stroll or errand. This can be anything from a book, toy, puzzle, or any other item that keeps him entertained for a while. Educational toys that keep your child engaged is always a topnotch choice.
Praise Good Behavior
Finally, be sure to praise good behavior whenever you see one. This helps reinforce positive behavior. If your child practices good behavior, reward him with praises and compliments to encourage him to repeat this later on.