When you're still a child, you cling to your parents with dear life, depending on them on almost everything you need. From the food that you eat to the clothes that you wear to the games that you play - everything has to be spoon-fed by your parent. That spoon-feeding method gradually lessens as you grow older.
At 3 years old, you learn to choose and wear clothes on your own. By the time you're 6, you can organize your things and get ready for school. When you reach your teenage years, you can go out on your own without having your parents trail behind. Such development is normal. Although milestones occur at different ages, people develop and evolve into mature beings that are well-equipped to handle themselves independently.
Immature Personality Disorder
People with Immature Personality Disorder, however, have extreme difficulties adapting to these changes. They somewhat fail to acquire the necessary skills needed to handle situations and respond to problems. This condition, which is very common among teenagers, is a type of personality disorder characterized by the lack of mature behavior, attitude and perspective.
If you have a teen that you suspect has this problem, here are some tips that can help you in this predicament.
Maintain Close Relations With Your Child
It's very important to have a close relationship with your child in order for you to impart significant changes in his/her personality. If you barely talk to your teenage child, you cannot expect to have success in talking to him/her about this matter.
Talk To Your Child About The Situation
Open up to your teen how you feel about this. Don't use the words "disappointed" or "failure". If you tell your teen that he/she failed you, he/she would feel that it is over and that there is no more room for changes. Instead, tell your teen that you are concerned that he/she might be having difficulty and stress handling things maturely but you are positive that in time, he/she will be able to do that. Be sure to offer your help and give the assurance that you're there for him/her no matter what.
Let Your Child Handle Responsibilities
Sometimes, the reason children grow up as immature teens is that they were never really given the chance to handle responsibilities. Some parents take it up on themselves to do everything for the children. But if you truly love your child, you'll allow him/her to experience difficulties in handling responsibilities as this will serve as the training ground for the real world. Don't be afraid to give responsibilities to your teen. Don't underestimate his/her abilities. If you believe that your child is not capable of doing anything, he/she will grow up thinking the same thing.
Be Slow On Criticisms But Quick On Compliments
To reinforce proper behavior, it's a must for parents to be generous with compliments. Constructive criticisms can be given from time to time but be sure to impart it in such a way that they won't be offended or that they won't feel that everything they're doing is wrong.