Parenting has never been easy. Right from the beginning when you first welcomed your child into the world, you have faced numerous challenges, most of which you never imagined that you'd be able to overcome. As your child is growing up, you now face an entirely brand new challenge and that involves disciplining your child effectively. Remember, proper disciple is not instilling fear in your child, rather nurturing sense of responsibility and respect as well as strengthening parent and child relationship. To help you on this matter, here are some strategies that you would want to consider.
Use Age-Appropriate Discipline Techniques
As the child grows, it's not only his/her physical aspects that change and develop but also her mental and emotional maturity. With that said, it's crucial to apply discipline methods that are suitable for your child. For example, for babies younger than 18 months, concept of discipline will not yet be understood. Also, what works for your three-year-old toddler son will probably not work for your teenage daughter.
Ignore Annoying Behavior As Much As Possible
Behavior that does not pose harm or danger to your child such as tantrums and whining should be ignored. Usually, these habits are brought about by his/her desire for attention. If you scold your kid about it, it will only reinforce the behavior because the desired attention was achieved by it. Ignore completely but be sure to pay attention when the child has stopped whining and talks to you in a nice manner. This technique only works if you praise the good behavior.
Use Appropriate Facial Expressions And Body Languages
Facial expressions as well as body languages can be powerful communications to inform the child about your feelings regarding what he/she has done. For example, crossed arms express disapproval and hostility, and thus shouldn't be used when you compliment your child.
Let Consequences Follow Your Child's Actions
A child should learn that his/her actions bring consequences. If he/she does something that's not nice, the consequence will also not be nice. For example, if your child refuses to put away his/her toys after playing and one of his/her favorite play items gets lost, don't be too quick in helping your kid find that missing toy. Instead, point out to your child that it was the consequence of his/her inappropriate behavior. Intervene only if the consequence of his/her action will pose danger or harm.
Reward Good Behavior
Reward system is always more effective than punishment. Establish the rules clearly and reward your child with praises and treats when he/she follows the rules. Just be careful about choosing treats to give your child. See to it that these are healthy and beneficial for your little one. Don't use food particularly chocolates and candies as this would instill unhealthy eating habits.