Crying is a natural way of coping with grief. If a person experiences loss in the family or among his/her friends, crying is the common response. It's a part of the grieving process.
Benefits Of Crying
Crying is good for various reasons:
- It helps them adapt to sad situations.
- It also enables them to express what they feel.
- It helps people feel better by releasing emotions.
Common emotions that come with loss are:
Grieving Process Differs
Of course, the grieving process differs in every person. Some factors can also affect the grieving process.
These factors include:
- age of person who died
- time of preparation for the loss
- the grieving person's type of personality
- type of relationship with the person who died
The cause of the person's death is also a factor:
- If the cause of death is natural, emotions are tamer for those left behind.
- If the cause of death is a violent crime, grief is much heavier and moving on is a lot more difficult. Anger is the most common and strongest emotion for people who lose someone they love unnaturally.
It's Ok Not To Cry
Just because crying is perceived as good for the grieving process, it doesn't mean that lack of tears is bad. If you don't feel like crying, that's okay. It's possible that you just need time and space to grieve your loss in your own way. Also, some people just have personalities that don't easily allow them to shed tears. If you're not able to cry, just see to it that you are dealing with your emotions appropriately.
Now, if you find yourself having difficulty going on with your usual daily activities or if you feel like crying or you want to cry but you can't, you might need to seek help from a mental health provider or a grief counselor.
Unhealthy Ways To Grieve
If you find yourself resorting to unhealthy ways of coping with grief such as excessive drinking of alcohol or using of illegal drugs, it's a must to get help. A counselor can recommend behavior therapies that can help in the re-establishment of your control and direction in life.
Other Ways To Manage Grief
- Don't hesitate to seek professional help if you determine that you need to.
- A support group can also be instrumental in your grieving process.
- In some cases, use of antidepressants and other medications are recommended by the doctor.
- Remember that unresolved grief can lead to some mental health problems like depression.